My boyfriend is still on a dating website
I'm in a two year relationship now and this is the first time anything like this happening to me. But my point is, ignoring the issue will only make it worse. After a period, due to this ignorance, he may get the courage to bring this cheating out of the cyber world into real world. I think it is a GREAT idea to post your photo with the exact same profile as he has done on POF and see how he responds. Eventually one day I took out my photo album where there were many pictures of old boyfriends and casually flipped through it. If he comes off all defensive and accuses you of invading his privacy, you will know what kind if man you have on your hands - one who is not fully appreciative of you. You are the first prize, not the consolation prize. It's bringing me down and making me feel like there is something wrong with me, makes me feel super insecure.My boyfriend – who is over 60 – has had more dates than anyone I know and still receives notifications of women who have emailed him constantly.He has told me about some of them and still hears from many of them. Whenever I have to go to a social function, it shows that he has been on reviewing matches sent to him.Unfortunately there is no common rule about dating for a certain length of time before calling it a ‘relationship’ – partners simply evolve into an exclusive dating relationship when they feel ‘right’ about each other.Sometimes this could take the form of realizing that you are compatible on emotional or lifestyle grounds, missing him/her even when you are out with someone else or getting your hackles up with your partner’s ex is on the horizon.Since we have dated for almost two years, I asked him to cancel his online dating account. I told him it was upsetting and we had a little verbal disagreement. But your relationship does suggest a level of patience and tolerance that far exceeds the norm. Imagine a company that lets its CEO cook the books and embezzle from them because he’s a smart, charismatic guy.After another social event that I attended with girlfriends, I found that he had done the same thing again. –Barb A man who is openly defying his two-year girlfriend to stay active on Match. The shareholders would have every right to demand an ouster. I do hate to be the one to burst your bubble, Barb.
So it is quite likely that you may have met a wonderful guy on a dating site and hit off equally well in real life.
Or would you guess that a man who has a membership on a dating site is actually, you know… There is simply no viable, reasonable, acceptable response he can make – even if, somehow, he has not met ANY new women since “committing” to you.
USING that site for its intended purposes – to meet new women? I’ll be the first to admit – online dating can be addicting – especially when you’re getting a lot of attention.
Put it this way: I don’t go to Amazon to browse books. There IS a temptation, for both men and women, to try to continually “trade up”.
But the whole point of dating – for most of us, anyway – is to find one person that makes you want to quit altogether.